No one wants to sound like they’re judging someone else and their choices, and we’re certainly not pointing any condemnatory fingers at Sophie Tanner. But still, at first her decision to marry herself does give the impression of having been taken on the wrong side of three bottles of wine.
It is A Thing though – many people have pledged themselves to themselves, so that they can love and respect others in the ‘correct’ way. It’s called ‘sologamy’, and its supporters claim it leads to a happier life. So there is a reason to this particular rhyme.
Tanner married herself back in 2015 and has never looked back, although has since cheated on herself, and now she’s appeared on This Morning to talk about her relationship and its benefits.
She admits that it doesn’t necessarily exclude her from ever having sex or being intimate with another person again, but instead is just a means of rejecting bad relationships.
Tanner ‘cheated’ on herself with a Ruari Barrett, a practicing polyamorist – someone who enters intimate relationships with more than one partner – having a monogamous relationship with her.
They eventually split after five months, with Ruari wanting to date more than one woman again and Sophie deciding she deserved better.
Speaking to Amanda Holden, she said: “Self-marriage is about self-love. It’s saying that self-compassion and self-care is as important as romantic relationships.
“It doesn’t mean you’re rejecting all other meaningful relationships in your life and becoming a nun forever more. It means you’re rejecting bad relationships.
“If only there was more self-love in the world, we wouldn’t need ceremonies like this.
“This is a statement which looks to raise the profile of self-love, saying it’s as important as romantic love and doing it as a formal ceremony as anyone else would have a wedding.
“Marrying yourself is a lifelong commitment to be responsible for your own happiness, so divorce is not an option.”
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Eventually Ruari dedicated himself to the same cause and married himself, promoting the concept of self-love alongside his former flame.
According to The Self Esteem-System website, 85 percent of the world’s population are affected by lack of self-compassion, with Dr Joe Rubin revealing that it’s a ‘foundational factor in many societal issues’.